4:09am December 28, 2014

Has anyone ever met a guy (it’s usually a guy, sorry) who exemplifies these two awful character portraits COMBINED?

Lyrics to both:

David Bowie, “Love You Till Tuesday”

Peter Gabriel, “Modern Love”

I’ve known a guy who was exactly like both characters in these songs. He’d basically fixate on one woman at a time (although he also did this thing where he collectively fixated on every woman he’d ever fixated on in the past, which is why I can’t escape him fully even now).

Woman to him is anyone he decides is female. Genderless probably isn’t attractive to him. Fat certainly isn’t attractive to him. I once read a message from him online where he lamented to others that I “didn’t used to be huge” and how attractive I used to be, which basically translated to “I used to be able to jerk off to pictures of hir and now I can’t.”

BTW, a fun exercise when you’re bored is to go through “Modern Love” by Peter Gabriel, and see how many penis, vulva, and sexual references you can pick up, both overt and covert. It’s kind of hilarious. I get the sense that, however these singers might have behaved towards women themselves, these songs were meant to be character portraits of other people, not representative of the people’s actual feelings. There’s too much mocking in them for them to be about themselves, even for someone with a healthy ability to laughat themselves.

Now if I could just get Mr. Love You Till Tuesday to leave me alone, forever, and stick to his wife, that’d be nice. That’s the other thing… people told me that his fixation on me shouldn’t be there anymore because he was married. I wondered if people are really so naive as to think that womanizers, even geek womanizers, suddenly stop being womanizers when they take their marriage vows. I mean, I’m sure it happens, but I’m also sure as often as not it doesn’t happen. And yes, you can be a womanizer without being the stereotypically ultra-attractive guy with smooth social skills. In fact geek womanizers often rely on the appearance of a lack of social skills to draw women in and make them feel safe.

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