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4:18am January 12, 2015
Anonymous asked: What is your gender?

If you mean what gender my society defines me as, female legally, but the average person can get confused by my body’s “mixed signals” when it comes to gender, and can become quite hostile about it. Some people also read me as male.

But if we are talking about innate gender identity, I have none and no idea what one would feel like. This is not a political stance. I know lots of prior both cis and trans, who get so much meaning it if their genders I would never advocate getting rid of gender.

My lack of gender is purely personal, took me two decades of intense soul searching (including within a much more rigid trans community) to even work out, I’d never heard terms like agender or neutrois, I made up the word nongendered but later settled on genderless.

I prefer sie/hir, but if you can’t remember that, any pronoun will do. Not that my preferences are meaningless. But I have a cognitive disability where pronoun trouble has been noticed for 70 years. I can’t bring myself to judge people unless they’re being deliberately insulting. I make pronoun mistakes all the time, I will never get the hang of Spivak pronouns because I was exposed too late (haven’t been able to learn new pronouns since the age of 20) so yeah… I can’t judge unless I see clear malice.

Short version: FAAB, genderless, sie/hir, and none of this is a political statement, something I expect from everyone to be just like me or something, and this is entirely internal self-definition. I worked long and hard to realize who I was WRT gender, and nobody can take that away.

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