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10:13pm April 11, 2015

autieblesam:

madeofpatterns:

fullyarticulatedgoldskeleton:

Everybody involved in that thread about how abuse under the guise of social justice has damaged us in some way or has, at the very least, accomplished the very opposite of what it’s trying to do, is marginalized on at least several axes.
It’s not “white/cis/able/hetero people whining.” It’s oppressed people talking about our experiences. We have perspectives, they’re just inconvenient to anyone who finds the current ideology useful.
Writing people off as “too privileged to have a valid perspective” is dismissive and binarist thinking. Most people have privilege. Most people are marginalized in at least one way, too. You can’t reduce the whole of human experience down to how many “points” they have in either category, because people are not math equations.

said this on another post but I’m saying it again here
People talk like “listen to marginalized people” comes with an implied clause “when they endorse a particular narrow ideology”.
Which is the opposite of what listening means.
Autistic people have *completely legitimate* reasons to be angry – and the idea that nonautistic people or nondisabled people in general or parents of disabled kids are by definition the enemy is incredibly destructive. Especially in combination with the idea that you should trust people with your neurotype and see them as safer.
“You’re too privileged to have an opinion” is the same damn thing as “I’m calling you high functioning because I don’t like what you’re saying about autism”.

It really reminds me of the dip feminism took where feminists were policing people for being too feminine and aligning with the patriarchy and forgetting that the point of social justice is human rights, not universal restrictions.
Someone communicating their own needs that happens to align with the narrow approach of privileged “allies” doesn’t mean they are wrong and misrepresent their community; it only emphasizes that the issue with the narrow approach is the “narrow” part.

I distinctly remember having a fellow feminist refuse to engage me in conversation unless I told her whether or not I wear lipstick.
Imagine being so gung-ho about saving women that you actually… ignore and belittle all women except the ones in your immediate social group who all don’t wear lipstick. :/