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11:26pm June 3, 2015

Oh and on the topic of cyberbullying…

soilrockslove:

madeofpatterns:

withasmoothroundstone:

…one thing I get a lot of at times, and not at all other times, but it always irritates the crap out of me, is people asking me personal questions about my personal life based on things I wrote between 5 and 15 years ago.  Particularly the people who page through everything I’ve ever written looking for “discrepancies” and then ask supposedly innocent questions that are clearly intended to “expose discrepancies” at worst and satisfy their curiosity about supposed discrepancies at best.

Like the person who basically said, in an ask that may or may not have been anon I don’t remember, but it’s a good example:  “On your old website it said you cut your hair short because you wouldn’t be able to rip it out that way, and now you have long hair.  Do you still pull your hair out?  What made you decide to grow your hair out again?  Why is it not a problem for you now if it was a problem for you back then?”

More about cyberbullying and my history with it and why this question is more than a question, under the cut:

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that parody site you made meant a lot to me at the time. I’m glad you made it and sorry you took so much shit about it.

That parody website also helped me a whole lot and… Thank you for it.  I’m sorry it’s gotten you so much harrassment, though.

Thanks, both of you, it means a lot.  I know it was very useful in its time, but I look back on it with dread sometimes knowing what it seemed to lead to.  One of the weirdest things was everyone else’s certainty that I would “become famous”, which never exactly happened, but I got my 15 minutes about a month after I got a threat that if I ever “became famous” these people (who had “talked to people who used to know me” – I knew who immediately because there’s only a few people who would lie about me like that to total strangers with an agenda) would “expose me”.  I decided getting the word out about that website and that video were more important than anything else.  So I risked it, and I got cyberbullied but good as a result, but I’d probably do it over again, with more awareness of the ways the media would twist my story.  And more resilience in the face of the hell I was going to endure.