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10:44pm July 26, 2015

bittersnurr:

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idk. ime it’s actually much easier on me not to have detailed conversations about sex before having it. i think this is something that’s going to depend a lot on the people involved.

oh I don’t mean like RIGHT BEFORE

like this conversation for me I imagine would be a TOTAL BUZZKILL and also the least sexy and most awkward thing ever and possibly would have to be conducted over instant mess anger or something because I expect to probably turn purple which is embarrassing.

i just mean if you’ve decided “I want to have sex with this person” you should probably talk about it BEFORE things lead to things and you are about to actually do it.

I might have a hard time having that conversation, but I see your point, too.  Like I’d want people to know I don’t do penetration of any kind and never will, and that if people get anywhere near inserting anything into any hole, I have a very violent response to it that would probably kill the mood in a major way.  Or they could find out after I threw them off the bed without trying to, which sounds much less pleasant.

It’s hard to know all your turnoffs until you’ve encountered them, though.  One woman once said “You’ve got big breasts like my mother” and that was like an instant turnoff but I didn’t feel comfortable telling her that.  And I would never have known that was a turnoff because I would never have known someone would say that to me, let alone how it would feel.  She didn’t mean anything bad by it, but being compared to someone’s mother felt a bit incestuous and turned me off really fast.  I had to work at getting back in the mood.

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