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10:47pm July 26, 2015

bittersnurr:

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yeah. on the other hand past a certain point of triggered I just start screaming and crying and can’t stop (this happened a few times w/ ex-partner) so, like, it is hard to misinterpret that as consent

yeah I am doctor trained so I automatically agree to be touched so it has already been mistaken as consent 2x and I have just been lucky things didn’t go very far :/

Yeah consent can look very weird when one of the people involved is the sort of disabled person who has to get naked and/or be touched in private regions by medical professionals on a regular basis.  I literally have people touching my vulva and my butt every single day of the week except Sundays.  This absolutely shapes how I respond to people seeing me naked and touching me there or anywhere else.  It is extremely difficult to teach myself things like body modesty but I try really really hard to remember those things because I know it will protect me from abuse if I can.  But it’s hard, when no part of your body is truly private in practice, to remember that there are private parts, when in sexual situations.

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  1. slashmarks said: I do that up until genital contact is involved, basically, so like, it’s been a problem but not usually with actual sex
  2. withasmoothroundstone reblogged this from bittersnurr and added:
    Yeah consent can look very weird when one of the people involved is the sort of disabled person who has to get naked...
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