as small as a world and as large as alone

6:09pm August 3, 2015

fullyarticulatedgoldskeleton:

If I had a solid piece of advice to give anyone it would be just “calm down”

And I don’t mean that in a dismissive sense but like

One of the things being involved in SJ did was give me an immediate panic response every time I saw someone talk about something Forbidden

And slowly learning that talking to people about things is not actually on par with trying to put a fire out before it kills someone has been extremely helpful for me

It’s incredibly important to be able to gain a little perspective. No, someone on the internet being wrong is not the literal equivalent of a bullet on its way to murder someone. Working out right from wrong requires time and patience. It can’t be done with panicked urgency or rage.

I think what’s especially saddening is that you get so many splinter groups within social justice itself because people don’t know how to deal with different perspectives without making it into “you’re wrong, and that’s dangerous, so now we’re enemies.” When some in-group thing becomes controversial, like, “Disabled people all think (thing),” and some disabled people go, “No, we don’t,” I never see that reconciled as a valid difference of perspective. I always just see it turn into enemy factions. It sucks.

So much agreement.

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