9:32pm June 2, 2013

➸ Trying to find the right words: feminaspie: and also: I self-diagnosed about a year before my official...

and also: I self-diagnosed about a year before my official diagnosis

I was afraid to tell anyone about it because of the stigma surrounding self-dx’ing

I was scared I wouldn’t be taken seriously, that people would think I was just “looking for attention”, or an “excuse to be…

I’ve known a few legitimately autistic people who use it as an excuse to be an asshole. But no people who fake it in order to use it as an excuse. And mind you, I’m talking about a handful out of hundreds of people I’ve met. It’s quite rare. (And I’m talking about genuine asshole behavior, not being blunt or seemingly rude while not actually being so. I experience the second and so do tons of my friends and it’s a totally different matter. I’m talking about actual cruelty.)

My own theory is that the entire idea that autistic people use it ask an excuse to be assholes, was cooked up by people who wanted to be assholes towards autistic people without feeling guilty for it. So for the most part the idea that we are constantly using it as an excuse to be an asshole, is itself an excuse to be an asshole towards us.

Very long post I made about it here:

http://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/excuses-to-be-a-jerk-for-badd/

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