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8:43pm June 23, 2013

➸ Humainquivolepas: (Trigger Warning) Institutionnalisation, abuse

andreashettle:

youneedacat:

I am good at adjusting to situations. Possibly too good at times. I don’t always know when a situation is worth adjusting to and when it’s worth fighting. Despite the intense will I sometimes have, despite sometimes accruing a reputation as someone who fights too much, there’s a…

In (re)-reading your story, it occurs to me that maybe the fact that someone spends hours trying to convince you that they can be trusted.  Is ITSELF a bad warning sign that they’re more interested in asserting power over you (for the purpose of keeping you compliant because it’s more convenient for them when you are) than they are in actually doing something to EARN your trust.  Because genuinely earning trust takes longer.  Because the only way that any person can genuinely earn the trust of another person is by NOT BREAKING IT.  And by CONTINUING to not break it.  And that, by definition, takes time.  

What they tried to do to you really sucks.  It’s scary that so many people seem to have so much trouble grasping this basic concept about how trust really works.  (Or maybe they do and don’t care, which is scarier.) And, worse, seems to think that trust is something they ought to be somehow entitled to.

Yeah I always consider powerful people telling me I’m horrible for but instantly trusting then a bad sign. Usually it’s a very good signal that they want to get away with doing bad things to me.