8:05am June 27, 2013

➸ Nico: lesshumansmorecats: mewtwoalaid:like what is so hard about “people...

youneedacat:

nicocoer:

survivorwaver:

lesshumansmorecats:

mewtwoalaid:

like what is so hard about “people who can get pregnant”

What is so hard about that is that they have to acknowledge us. That we are real, that we matter. It would mean acknowledging the fact that many women cannot get pregnant, and society loves to pretend…

Just a not very important comment, not just elderly women, there are young women who are the same.

We aren’t 100% sure about my fertility- I’m hopeful about someday having kids, but there’s still a decent chance because of my health stuff of not having kids- either and I’m 25.

I had a friend who had to have an ablation (they burn and scrape the uterine lining so you don’t menstruate, and a side effect is not having kids) in her early 20s- and had to leave the US to get it- because of medical issues.

So yes.

Not sure about my fertility either but my period stopped in my twenties.

Not sure about mine either, after the pituitary problems way back. Funny how medical professionals kept screeching about possible infertility (if I didn’t do exactly what they said) when I was 16 and really didn’t care, and the only concern about anything like that as an adult has been pushing me to have kids “before it’s too late" or bullying me into having an IUD I said I didn’t want because I was a fat foreigner perceived as “crazy". (Seriously. And I got the “before it’s too latency concern trolling before I even hit 30.)

Gotta love how a person’s potential fertility, or lack thereof, is somehow other people’s business at all, at least if they may have ever had a uterus. (Assuming, of course, that they have not expressed concern/sought advice.) I find a lot of the way that stuff gets approached creepy and intrusive—even when it’s not part of the really blatant attempts at controlling other people’s bodies based on ideology which has become such a problem in some circles. It’s just none of your business unless the other person brings it up.

I did get an IUD, but only because it might prevent cancer and the hormone pills that would do the same were messing with my migraines.

But I wish I hadn’t. I’m now $1400 in debt because nobody told me it wasn’t going to be covered by Medicare even as cancer prevention with my condition plus a family history. And I had to get it out on under anesthesia because I can’t even do a normal gynecologist exam without screaming my head off and clamping my legs shut because it feels like they’re ripping flesh apart every time they stick the speculum in.

Which they try to tell me is my muscles clenching from anxiety. But I suspect spasticity is more like it. Because when I woke up from the anesthesia I still felt like flesh had been ripped, and the muscles around my urethra are spastic too. And it’s not like I have anxiety in my sleep. (I’d never let my ex touch me there either because it hurt too much - as he found out once when I nearly threw him off a bed. It was years before I could even give myself treatment for yeast infections. I can’t figure out why vaginas are supposed to be erogenous zones, and wish I could just get my uterus removed to stop the worry about cancer without having to put in IUDs I’ll never be able to afford. But they’d never pay for that either.)

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