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1:51pm July 16, 2013

Important point of aug comm etiquette

It is very rude. Very fucking rude. And potentially triggering.

To use the fact that someone communicates by typing.

As an excuse to talk over them. Especially to yell louder than their speaker will go. Or find other ways to exploit the way their communication device works, in order to stop listening to what they are saying. Including looking away from a screen on purpose.

It doesn’t matter how mad you are.

You COULD NOT manage these things with a nondisabled person, and if you tried they’d be able to do it right back to you.

If you do this, you are being a real fucking asshole. Because you’re basically exploiting a difference in communication abilities to take your temper out on someone and do what is convenient to you, at their expense.

Same goes for telling them their communication takes too long, so your not going to listen. Except in true emergencies, and then you do it as tactfully as possible, apologize, and promise to listen later. And give them a chance to indicate how urgent their communication to you is.

Someone just did all of these things to me at once. It hurt more because I trusted her and liked her. And I’m now more triggered than I ever expected to be, given people do this all the time.

My case manager was present, and was shocked at her rudeness.

I’m trying really hard not to just curl up in a ball and cry, which is not at all my normal reaction to these things.

I think also because my friend is trying to instill in me some self respect, when normally I put up with this shit because I’m used to it.

But she’d never do that to someone she saw as an equal.

Ugh. I used to get mad that I couldn’t yell back. Now I just want them not to yell in the first place.