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2:09pm July 20, 2013

➸ Urocyon's Jaunts: strangedayshavefoundme666: clatterbane: sad-queer: things “body...

strangedayshavefoundme666:

clatterbane:

sad-queer:

things “body positivity” movements should address besides weight/fat:

  • (dis)ability
  • features associated with non-whiteness
  • hair type
  • lots of body hair / no body hair / little body hair / hair in all places / losing hair
  • …

Yeah I’ve gotten people accusing me of having hair in the wrong places because I’m a lesbian. Rather than just because I’m hairy and very attached to my body hair for some reason. If never even heard of a lesbian when I started fighting over whether I could keep my unibrow or stop shaving my legs. And my desire for short hair for a long time, was a practical choice.

But people have always attributed my choices about my appearance, as well as the things that are not choices, to everything but the real reasons.

The worst thing though was a really cruel, “mean girl” type woman online who said she was a lesbian. And proceeded to rip me apart and say the only reason I’m a lesbian has because it allows me to be fat, ugly and hairy. And that I’d probably never even had a relationship with a woman. (I had, by that is not what makes me a lesbian.)

And she said that “real lesbians” learn to recognize people like me and avoid us like the plague in favor of the “real” ones. Who are, of course, thin and attractive and could get a man if they wanted one.

It’s really sickening to hear the “you’re just a lesbian because you couldn’t cut it as a straight woman” bullshit coming from other lesbians. Especially since I actually literally had guys fight over me st one point in my life. And I came out at a time when I was skinnier than I’ve ever been in my life. Like this is what I looked like weeks after I came out:

http://m.flickr.com/photos/silentmiaow/919076884/

Not that it would matter if I’d always been fat, but I get irritated when people assume things, too. (I was starving at the time. A later factor in my gaining weight in fact.)

But in case you wondered if the lesbian community actually accepts people who look like me, I imagine some parts do. But others snark at us and mock us the same way many straight women do. And arrogantly apply the same stereotypes to us, that they are subject to.

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