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5:06am July 21, 2013

➸ Social skills for autonomous people: Non-literal greetings

proudheron:

realsocialskills:

In the US, certain things are ritual greetings that follow a standard script. Deviating from it is considered a bit weird (but it’s also common, and possible to get away with. I deviate from it often).

“How are you?” is not usually intended as a real…

A lot of time the answer to what’s up, is what’s up. You don’t even answer, you just ask the question back.

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  1. sionnachsskulk reblogged this from realsocialskills
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  3. auti-stim reblogged this from deducecanoe and added:
    Yup yup.
  4. brokaw22 reblogged this from deducecanoe and added:
    My answer more often than not to "How are you?” or “How have you been?” (depending on the person and situation) is “I’m...
  5. deducecanoe reblogged this from auti-stim and added:
    I have this… head short-circuit thing with "How are you?” I cannot answer it with “I’m fine.” I just can’t. Usually I...
  6. sonohtora reblogged this from volcanopunk
  7. volcanopunk reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    I’d say that the general rule is that if they are asking about your emotional state (like “how are you doing?”) they...
  8. memewolves reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    OHmygosh the "hey-how-are-ya” thing is so frustrating because I can never tell when someone expects an actual answer or...
  9. aprilwednesday reblogged this from proudheron
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  11. aura218 reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    “Nothing. How are you?” “Fine.” “Great. Okay, well, I got to [do something] so I’ll talk to you later.”
  12. proudheron reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    Bolding mine. This is spot-on! Especially that point about service jobs - six straight hours of mechanical social...
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  15. realsocialskills reblogged this from seatentsina and added:
    This. I didn’t mean to say that everyone has to use the scripts all the time. They’re worth knowing, but that doesn’t...
  16. seatentsina reblogged this from dopamine-deficient and added:
    Oh, it should be noted that sometimes these ritual questions are simply substitutions for greetings. Eg. Person 1:...
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  20. mmmyoursquid reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    I’m not sure. But I think I’d suggest words that imply you’re busy–“working on this”, “studying this,” “focusing on...
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  22. redhead-without-a-tardis reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    Higher eyebrows, leaning towards you a little instead of slouching, if they are sitting. Waiting for an answer. I can’t...
  23. 2ifbifrost reblogged this from realsocialskills and added:
    Some signs someone is inquisitive and would like information on what you know or are doing: Raised eyebrows Open eyes...