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11:27am December 27, 2013

@youneedacat

madeofpatterns:

youneedacat:

madeofpatterns:

I think the reason that people railing against BPD is such a red flag is that it tends to mean “the medical system says you’re hateable”, more often than not.

And if someone is saying people are hateable AND invoking psychiatric authority, bad things happen.

Yeah it’s that and it’s something else too.

It’s often that they themselves are super-sensitive about the traits that they ascribe to BPD people because they themselves have the traits they ascribe to BPD people (usually “manipulative” is a big one… I remember this one person I knew IRL railing constantly about how she was always meeting “manipulative people with BPD who refuse to take responsibility and are really creepy”, and I don’t know if this person had BPD or not, it’s really irrelevant, but she was manipulative, refused to take responsibility, and was really creepy).

Is it that thing where people think that by describing a thing, they take away any possibility that the thing could ever apply to them?

Like, they put all the creepy things into a diagnosis they can deny having, therefore they can’t possibly be creepy and manipulative?

Maybe partly that.  Partly a related thing where they think if they say other people are doing something, then they won’t be doing something.

Note that I only see this as a huge huge huge warning sign about a person if they are saying this as if like… half of the people they meet have whatever quality they’re describing, or as if the world is absolutely overrun with people with those qualities to the point that there’s no way to get away from them.

I do get annoyed when people use things like BPD as a way of saying someone’s a bad person, but what I’m describing here is even more than that.  It’s seeing people with BPD everyplace they go and speaking as if people like BPD are practically taking over the world and making it impossible for them to have a good life because people with BPD are everywhere, kind of thing.