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3:08pm May 31, 2014

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thebigblackwolfe:

If you’ve cut a negative person from your life, whether they were abusive or just someone who wasn’t a positive influence on you, at NO POINT in your healing are you required to let that person BACK into your life.

Your healing should never be contingent on you bringing people who have harmed you back into your space. Your healing does not require you to give these people a second chance to harm you.

Your healing is up to you, do what feels right always.

Yes.

You can let someone back into your life, but never do it because you feel obligated to.

In general, the feeling should be something like this:

If you feel like there are strings tugging at you anywhere in your body, in your gut, in your heart, if you feel pulled sideways every time you think of someone?  If your head goes foggy or indistinct?  If you feel any of those feelings every time you think about letting someone back into your life?  Don’t.

If your mind is clear, if you feel a sense of clarity, if you feel like your decision is proceeding logically from your mind, or directly from your heart, without any interference or strings or lapses in clarity?  Then that’s a better chance of being the right decision.

And if you do decide to let someone back into your life, you can reverse that decision at any time.

Also, remember that there are good reasons to cut someone out of your life besides them being bad or abusive.  Sometimes you’re just not compatible with someone.  Sometimes the place they are in their life, and the place you’re at in your life, mean that being around each other would be destructive, and you’re the only one who realizes this.  It doesn’t have to mean there’s something horribly wrong with them.  You still have a right to cut them out of your life.

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