12:46am June 4, 2014

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thegreenanole:

youneedacat:

patternsmaybe:

The kind of ~acceptance~ where parents don’t try to teach their kids anything or plan for their adulthood and think of that as loving them the way they are?

I knew an autistic girl who grew up in that kind of ~acceptance~.

She started out a very kind and caring person. She…

Yikes. That is certainly a scary cautionary tale.

What sorts of things did they do to make her happy, I wonder, that led her to believe killing people and animals over minor annoyances was okay to do?

It sounds like instead of making her happy, they perhaps simply made her angry or dissolute so she is now lashing out? Or she learned there were no consequences to her actions… so why not?

Horrifying from any angle.

It was more that they put no boundaries on her behavior, and if she did something wrong, they excused it.  She literally got no discipline whatsoever.  So things that started out as minor behavioral whims got bigger, and bigger, and bigger, in nature.  Plus, she began to realize that she was desperately unhappy and that nobody around her was going to notice it.  It was and is a tragic situation waiting to happen.  Actually it’s already tragic.  I think the family is hiding her homicidal urges from people.  (I only know because I know someone she visited, and tried to kill within the space of a very short visit because she woudln’t watch a TV show with her or something.)  It’s a horrible situation all around, but I know that she did not start out as someone who didn’t care about others.  But after 20 years of having her ego catered to unchecked by anything else, she’s lost the ability to care, it’s like it atrophied.

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