12:21pm June 25, 2014

Telling the entire world that abusers never stop being abusers.

Basically ensures that abusers will never stop being abusers, or that fewer abusers will stop being abusers.  Because they won’t be given the resources to stop.  And they won’t, themselves, believe themselves able to stop.  And everyone around them will treat them as if they will never be able to stop, so what’s the point.  

Some people never stop abusing.  Some people who were once abusive, not only stop being abusive, but become all-around better people than some people who were never abusive.  There is no single model of what “an abuser” is.  And in fact there is not a person on this planet who has never done anything abusive at all, so if you condemn people you’re condemning everyone including yourself.

(Still really seriously weirded out by the person who was extremely verbally abusive to me while saying that all abusive people deserved to be euthanized, with no trace of irony.)

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