7:15pm July 1, 2014

I wish people would stop asking me questions I can’t answer.

Basically, questions where they want to know my stance on some “issue” or another, and I don't have a stance on it, because I don’t really have stances on issues. I mean I do, but I don’t. And it’s really hard to explain this to people. And every time I say something about something, someone wants to know how I feel about an issue in general, when it’s like… I feel about things in specific. I feel about what happens when this specific person is in this specific place at this specific time and this specific thing happens and I can see the surroundings and the complexities and the context. I don’t feel about what happens in some whitewashed version of it where all the specifics have been taken out and it’s just an abstractified issue. And I give answers, but my answers aren’t any good, because I don’t think this way, I can’t think this way. There are issues where I do have a general stance for practical reasons, but in general my stance on anything ethical is “observe the specific situation and deal with it specifically and deal with context and lots and lots and lots of context and let the world hold the context, don’t let my brain hold the idea of what should be done”.

But how do I even explain that?

And how do I not come off like an asshole when I say I can’t handle this?

Like I’m sorry but “Are restraints always bad?” is not a question I can answer and not even a question I should answer.

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