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4:17pm July 5, 2014
Anonymous asked: i have a question, and i hope you can help me since you seem to know a lot about autism. my boyfriend is an asperger autist with depression on top of it. sometimes when he's overwhelmed he can't talk anymore and he'll get really agressive. he would never hurt my physically, but he has this look in his eyes, like a cornered animal, and sometimes he even snarls. i have tried not to trigger him, but it seems to both of us like it's impossible to evade. i am emotionally dependent and this

[2/2 brings back old emotions of abandonment. my father used to get very angry and defensive (though he was able to speak) and it felt like the person i had such a good and love filled connection to was suddenly gone and unreachable. i feel the same with my boyfriend now. sometimes he throws me out of the bedroom (without touching me, this is not physical) without being able to give me a reason and the amount that hurts me isn’t normal either. what should i do?]

I wish I had any answer for you.  I can’t tell exactly what the problem is, and I can’t tell how to solve it, and this may be my problem, not yours, for all I know.  Maybe someone else has any advice?  I just don’t know… I can’t get a good idea of what the situation even is.

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  1. jeffygiraffe reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    Idk how helpful this may be as it depends on how well he figures out his own emotions, but I found it helpful as a guide...
  2. fairyglitterwitch said: Just cuz he’s autistic doesn’t give him the right to treat you badly. It may not be physical but it could be psychologically abusive. The best thing to do is to ask if theres something you can do to help when he is triggered. and if not, walk away .
  3. karalianne reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    It sounds like when he gets overwhelmed he has trouble communicating things effectively and needs time alone to get...
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