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9:37pm July 16, 2014

Looking for a better term

I’d like a term for “benefiting from transmisogyny” that doesn’t misgender me.

So, “male privilege” isn’t going to cut it.  What will?

Background:  I was raised female and I’m genderless.  By genderless, I mean lacking gender, I don’t mean androgynous.  In lacking gender, I can’t be male, and can’t have male privilege.  But I do benefit from transmisogyny.  So there has to be a better term than ‘male privilege’.  There has to be a better way than assuming that “AFAB” means “trans man” or at least “transmasculine” (and even using “AFAB” as a synonym for “transmasculine”).  There’s a lot of nonbinary and genderless AFAB people who are anything but those two things, but still benefit from transmisogyny.

So, better word, anyone?  I understand that being subject to transmisogyny is worse than being misgendered, but being misgendered is not good either.  And ignoring it because it’s less bad than something else makes no sense to me.

Please don’t try to convince me that genderlessness is purely an AFAB thing or that it’s actually masculinity in disguise, because I’ve heard it before and I’ll never believe it.  (Genderless means without gender.  Masculinity is a gender.  Do the math.)  The genderless people I know are pretty evenly split between AFAB and AMAB, for whatever reason.

Notes:
  1. happinessisnotalwaysfun reblogged this from feliscorvus and added:
    I don’t mean to be pedantic, but “benefiting from transmisogyny” is a pretty good phrase which describes what is...
  2. feliscorvus reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    I can’t think of anything better than “AFAB privilege” offhand. It is definitely clunky but I guess it will “do” until a...
  3. acelesbianreihino reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    Yeah, I’m also AFAB and genderless and uncomfortable self-describing with any word with “masculine” in it. I’m not...
  4. dusty-soul reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    This is a really good explanation of the thing. If I had my list of latin roots with me, I’d start making of words....
  5. ladystoneshield reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone
  6. princesse-tchimpavita reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone
  7. maikisan said: I think the term you are looking for is something like “non-feminine privilege,” shared by men (trans and cis) as well as genderless people (and sometimes butch women). They are not getting “male privilege” but sharing in not being seen as women.
  8. withasmoothroundstone reblogged this from dusty-soul and added:
    Totally allowed to reblog it. Transmasculine privilege works for people whose gender is masculine in some way. It...
  9. epochryphal said: i’ve seen PWET - People Who Experience Transmisogyny, and PWDET - People Who Don’t Experience Transmisogyny. they’re…meh. however i despiiiiise “dfab privilege” it’s cissexist essentialist and really quickly misgendering
  10. ajax-daughter-of-telamon said: does AFAB or DFAB privilege work?
  11. thaxted said: Maybe I’m missing something, but is there a reason “benefitting from transmisogyny” doesn’t work? Because that is specific to trans women, which genderless people are not (I think?). Sometimes more words are better than one.
  12. thislousytshirt said: people do say dfab privilege, but not sure thats what you mean? im personally not even sure what its supposed to mean, so
  13. arctic-hands reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    I’ve never heard the term “benefiting from transmisogyny”. What does it mean?