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4:10am July 22, 2014

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madeofpatterns:

youneedacat:

madeofpatterns:

If I meet a woman who has a strong preference for female doctors, I assume that her life has been very different from mine.

I’m not exactly a woman, not exactly not. (Sociologically in many ways I’m a woman,…

I only have a strong preference for female doctors in my town because most male doctors around our town act like dicks or seem like creepers. Before I was finally diagnosed with leukemia when I was a baby, every male doctors would push my parents to the side and make up some lame ass excuse like body lice or the flu. As I got older and became more verbal about my health, every male doctor (aside from my nurse practitioner and oncologist at Children’s, and this one intern who helped me out when I couldn’t get rid of a staph infection) has ignored me, cut me off mid sentence when I explain what’s going on, tell me to just lose weight or take more medicine, and oddly enough not even prescribe me the medicine they want me to take, even though it isn’t OTC. For example, I’m having heart difficulties, and I went to the best heart specialist around here, and he just told me to lose weight (which I have tried all year and lost nothing), claimed I had high blood pressure, and now I’m having more problems than before I met him (heart palpitations, pauses in my heart rate, uncontrollable heart induced anxiety attacks, etc.).

When it comes to OBGYN, I much rather have a female performing my checkups. I see the nurse practitioner in one office for it, and she is amazing. She understands what I go through better than the doctors because she’s younger and can relate. Also, I’ve had some issues with males taking advantage of me, so I’d rather not have a panic attack over an appointment.

I feel like people took my post as an attack.

I didn’t mean it as one, though. There are all kinds of important reasons some people prefer female doctors.

Just noticing that - the way gender/power/danger is a factor in my life seems to be really, really different than it is for a lot of other people.

I didn’t take it as an attack.

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  1. slashmarks reblogged this from madeofpatterns and added:
    I agree that female doctors can be as/more dangerous as/than male doctors, but I have a very strong startle response to...
  2. madeofpatterns reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    I thought I was supposed to feel safer with women as a teenager. It ended poorly.
  3. ischemgeek reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    I was more confirming your impression, OP. And also ranting about some of the shitty docs I’ve had. Anger directed at...
  4. withasmoothroundstone reblogged this from madeofpatterns and added:
    I didn’t take it as an attack.
  5. r-dash2013 reblogged this from madeofpatterns and added:
    I didn’t comment to attack. Looks like it turned into more of a discussion than anything
  6. bukwrm reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    I’ve only ever had one male doctor who was good for me, so I prefer women doctors just because they seem to listen and...
  7. callmemonstrous reblogged this from autistic-mom and added:
    also male doctors tend to stare at my breasts and that……….like. yeah.
  8. autistic-mom reblogged this from madeofpatterns and added:
    I’ve been hurt by both. By more male psychiatrists than female psychiatrists. But… I do prefer female doctors. Because,...
  9. chavisory said: Prefer a female OB/GYN…for all other purposes, I’ve had way better experiences with male doctors on average.
  10. karalianne reblogged this from madeofpatterns and added:
    I have a female doctor now but all of my former doctors have been male. My ADHD doctor is a man, and the OB/GYN I saw...