12:14am July 24, 2014

You are not REQUIRED to be 100% helpful 100% of the time.

nicocoer:

It’s perfectly okay to periodically want to complain about something that is frustrating you. 

It’s perfectly okay to not be the one who does the solutions- sometimes just talking about it to someone who does is a big help.

it’s perfectly okay to be at the point where you don’t WANT to or are not ready for the problem solving process to begin.

It’s perfectly okay to be in the middle of working on a big issue and to turn to people also dealing with the issue in their lives to talk about the issue itself without having to deal with solutions.

It’s perfectly okay to not be working on the solution 24/7, and to need time to just FEEL about an issue. 

Indeed when you are working on a long term issue, issues with no quick or easy answer, issues that are metaphorically entirely uphill battles, issues that might not even be solved in your lifetime sometimes? It is essential to be able to find other people struggling with those issues so you can sit around and talk about it, complain about it, FEEL about it, without it being itself work or a burden.

Sure you might hear something or have an ah ha moment during those sessions, but that is not the value of it- the value is having a vent and having some community, if only temporary or only for that issue, to fall back on with those feelings. 

Not every complaint needs to be a work session. 

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