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7:37pm July 29, 2014

➸ If you want to make someone uncomfortable, compliment them.

feliscorvus:

youneedacat:

Seriously, it’s much nicer to get anon love than anon hate, but I keep thinking “crap people will think I’m actively encouraging people to think of me as this amazing person, and I’m not“ or "how do I deserve this?” or “I can’t be as nice as people think I am” or other things like that. Sometimes…

Reblogging to note that - this is generally true for me as well, but I have also noticed the TYPE of compliment matters.

I am a lot more comfortable with compliments about things I have *done* vs. things that (people have the impression) I *am*.

E.g., if someone says “you’re an amazing person!” I will feel super squirrely and weird for a while. But if they tell me “that painting you did is awesome!” I will feel mostly happy (but slightly worried they might just be humoring me, which I guess is garden-variety lack of confidence).

Very true. And squirrely is exactly the feeling.

Notes:
  1. dusty-soul reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone
  2. katisconfused said: you can respond to the non-anon ones privately maybe so there are less on the blog? you could also just save them in your inbox to look at when you’re sad which is pretty popular too.
  3. withasmoothroundstone reblogged this from feliscorvus and added:
    Very true. And squirrely is exactly the feeling.
  4. feliscorvus reblogged this from withasmoothroundstone and added:
    Reblogging to note that - this is generally true for me as well, but I have also noticed the TYPE of compliment matters....
  5. feliscorvus said: The thing I always worry about is that maybe I wrote something that was taken as “fishing for compliments”. But people who thought that probably wouldn’t give compliments so I am not sure where that comes from. Maybe just discomfort.