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1:56am August 11, 2014
womanaster asked: i think that within patriarchy the divide between men/non-men is more salient than one's actual gender identity b/c regardless of the words you use to describe yourself, unless you consciously work to elevate yourself to the class of men (by actively asserting distance from women, which some non-binary people do) you will be treated in the class of nonmen/women. i'm in a similar place gender-wise, and this how i've managed to wrestle with lacking gender, while being aligned with women

Yes, that’s very accurate.  I’m not a man, and have made no effort to turn myself into a man, because I'm genderless, not a trans man.  (Which is already a hard concept for some people to grasp.  There’s a lot of people who think DFAB trans == trans man.  Which is just not true.)  So I end up in that category of “nonmen”, which means sociologically I become “woman” in many circumstances, regardless of my (lack of) gender identity.  I think sexism works this way somehow, although I can’t explain it.

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  1. 1201alarm said: I identify as androgyne, and I am not really picky about pronouns except to correct anyone who assumes “he” as the default (usually online, in games, etc). But I see that more as challenging the assumption than having a pronoun preference.
  2. katisconfused said: I think the problem with being nonbinary is the education for anything regarding transpeople is awful to begin with. People can’t even get transmen/women, never mind there being ANOTHER OPTION, so they pick one for you instead.
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