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7:43pm August 14, 2014

draconicbastard:

okay so um, hi. autistic person here. and uh, i think i need some advice or help or something. I’m sorry if the whole post has horrible grammar and stuff i cant really make sentences well when im stressed, but i hope i’ll make sense here.
so basically. im autistic, 22 years old. oklahoma, US. currently living in a college dorm room with a person i met yesterday.
okay. why im writing though. im kindof useless. i mean, like, not entirely but….i dont handle money well, cant count change, and cant handle being around people or strangers well enough to have a job. i could explain the job thing better but i dont want to, its not the point.
what is the point, though, is well, i can’t really live at home anymore. the conditions are too abusive and negative for me to live with. just being away from there for a single day has helped me clear my head a lot. im still kind of messed up a lot though (not cause of autism though).
anyway, i cant live at college forever, im already older than the others in my dorm. and i dont exactly have anyone else to live with.
and well. lets see, getting to the point. im kindof…well…need a person to live with. to survive for any amount of time, i think.
someone to you know….make sure im not starving and not falling into depression and idk stuff like that. i was raised to never admit to any sort of weakness so this is all hard to ‘say’ here, but im trying….
i need a ‘caretaker’. and i guess most of us have a family member for that. and i kindof really don’t. and i wondered if maybe anyone in the autistic community here on tumblr had any ideas at all of how to find someone like that.
im really afraid of strangers. im just so afraid of people abusing me after so much stuff, you know. so….yeah. if anyone has any ideas on how to find such a person, a caretaker who won’t abuse me or neglect me…..i’d really appreciate it.
kinda not doing so hot tonight, thinking about the future and stuff. no one to talk to and idk. maybe someone has something positive to say?

I’m signal boosting.

But basically…  I get my caretakers from agencies, and they’re a seriously mixed bag.  But if you have (or can get) a formal diagnosis, there may be a developmental disability agency that would serve you.  Sometimes they will, and sometimes they won’t, and I don’t know much about Oklahoma (which is stupid because my family is originally from there, I should know more). But it’s one possibility among many.

There are also ways to hire caretakers.

And… there’s a book, “Avoiding Caregivers From Hell” or something like that, written by a physically disabled woman, which might be useful if you can get hold of it.