10:14pm August 17, 2014

I remember the last time I had to say “please don’t be mean to anyone on my behalf”

And it was so much worse than this…

And that makes me feel better.

It makes me feel like tumblr is a much better place than some places I’ve been.

I had this guy for awhile who basically stalked my stalker. On my behalf of course, he said. Which meant that I got blamed for every threatening message he left her, and he tended to go and scream incoherently at her online in ways that were little different from the way she liked to scream incoherently at me – lots of rage and noise and threats and violence, not much content.

And I had to tell him, “When you do that, I get blamed, please stop it, I would never do that to anyone.”

And then I got told I was discriminating against autistic people who communicate in ugly ways under stress.

And then I got told that under no circumstances should I say that I communicated in ugly ways under stress, because I don’t.

Several people who actually knew me, I’m sure, sat there grimly laughing at their computer screens. I used to communicate in extremely ugly ways under stress, and I really hurt people. But they didn’t say anything because the situation was already so out of control.

It’s been so long…

Anyway don’t ever be mean to anyone on my behalf. Not that I think anyone here would. Well maybe some people would. But don’t. Because all it means is I get blamed for you being mean. Because you become not a person with a mind of your own, but somehow through the magic of Internet weirdness you become a ‘minion’. There was a time people said I had 'minions’. Which meant that anyone who ever said anything on my behalf, with or without my consent, was a 'minion’ that I was responsible for in some way.

Someone here actually did that… she sent me a private message saying she was unfollowing me, but that she wanted it kept private so that she didn’t get 'dogpiled’ by my 'followers’. I don’t think I have followers prone to dogpiling, but still.

it’s all weird.

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