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3:26pm August 20, 2014
chordatesrock-deactivated201504 asked: Don't worry; I don't feel obligated. It's just that a lot of people feel self-conscious when other people comment on their looks. I'm happy to tell you how you look and what I think of your looks; I just can't shake the feeling that I'll make you feel like you have to worry about your appearance, or that I'll make you feel like your beauty eclipses more important things like your politics. I know you won't really feel like that, but lots of people would... IDK if that makes any sense.

I don’t think I’d get too distracted by my looks.  I mean, today, I’m focusing on my chin hair because I’m bored and exhausted and it’s easy to do and fun to tweak the noses of fatphobic assholes.  But in general I care more about important things than about how I look.

But I’ve only recently felt like I have any right to care how I look at all, and that seems important too.  Like that I’m allowed to have a personal style, that I’m allowed to care how I appear to others, that I’m allowed to feel good when people tell me I look good, that kind of thing.  But it’s not the sort of thing that’s likely to take over my life.  It’s mostly a diversion when I’m not able to do more important stuff.

I think I used to feel self-conscious, but these days I just feel amazed that anyone cares, kind of thing.