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2:45am August 23, 2014
Anonymous asked: That quote about only remembering you when they need you. I can understand where that's coming from but I've been on the end of a 10 year friendship that ended up being "i just need your help and i gloat about how good a friend you are but i never call or ask you to do anything unless i need you to take me somewhere or i need money or i want you to do xyz which is actually my chores and work etc." It ended the friendship because of it. I just wanted to point that out.

That makes perfect sense.  Everyone is different.

I have a horrible problem where I totally forget my friends exist, even my closest friends, for months at a time.  I feel terrible about it.  Sometimes it looks like “only remembering them when I need them” but that isn’t it at all.  It’s something to do with autism for me.  Not sure what, but some other autistic people have the same problem.  My friends have to be very tolerant of being forgotten, or our friendships fall by the wayside.  It makes me feel like a terrible friend.

But I can understand why the above situation (different than mine) would be a dealbreaker for some people, and that’s fine.

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  1. astrangemishap said: I got that same problem where I forget to contact my friends. Also do it with family members and usually call just to ask for something which I sort of feel guilty for but I hate talking on the phone for to long.
  2. spaceshiny said: I have this. I just don’t think about talking to people unless I have a specific thing I want to talk about. Which is usually something that’s upsetting me or a question too specific for google. So I end up without many friends, just acquaintances.
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