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11:30pm September 4, 2014
Anonymous asked: How dare someone ask if something you know the history of might be appropriation?Obviously they must be looking to get offended by asking a polite question. How dare they care about POC? They should unquestioningly swallow anything you say.*Fuck you*

narciii:

withasmoothroundstone:

How dare I not be 100% cheery all the time, and not always 100% able to tell the difference between a legit question and a troll?  You know, how dare I act like a person who has seen the word ‘appropriation’ become more and more misused over the years to the point it’s become meaningless (mostly to the detriment of PoC, mind you), and like a person who’s under a fair bit of stress right now?  How dare I not be perfect?  Oh yeah, it must be that I don’t care about PoC, it must be that I want people to unquestioningly swallow everything I say (I mean what the everloving fuck, I’m always telling people to question what I say and what anyone else says and think for themselves, so, yeah), it can’t possibly be that I was having a bad day and you looked indistinguishable from some trolls I’ve seen.  In fact, I’ve gotten private messages advising me that you probably were a troll and that I shouldn’t have responded at all.

But it’s clear you don’t actually give a fuck about me as an actual, you know, imperfect person who doesn’t always get things right and doesn’t magically intuit what you actually meant by things and can’t tell the difference between a troll and a confused (and, apparently, hostile) person.  I tried to meet you halfway in the middle, giving you information but not acting all happy and trusting about it.  And it’s clear you don’t give a fuck about my stress level, either.  I’m not a machine.  I don’t just answer asks as if there’s no human being with feelings attached behind the computer.  And the feelings attached aren’t always going to be happy happy joy joy when I’m hearing the word ‘appropriation’ misused for the dozenth time in a day, especially when connected to one of the most benign concepts I’ve ever seen.  If you can’t give a person slack for being in a slightly bad mood about something like that (and seriously, I didn’t say anything that horrible, I certainly didn’t say “fuck you”), then you’re probably not someone I want to be having a conversation with.

Leave me alone, don’t come back unless you’re willing to be at least halfway civil.  I’ve just been posting, rather a lot, about the effect of stress on my body at the moment.  I don’t need this kind of pointless bickering to add to it.

Dealing with people who approach you with nonsensical questions in bad faith isn’t your responsibility, youneedacat. 

Even if you’re not familiar with the AC derivation and how it was coined spontaneously, it doesn’t even make SENSE that Cousin might be something that belonged to PoC. How does it even have roots there? I don’t even know of a convergently evolutionized meaning of cousin used with PoC communities? Particularly PoC in general -what tradition are we talking about that uses that word? Black communities? Latin@ communities? I’ve never even heard it. (Which isn’t to say it doesn’t exist, but that it’s not something I’m familiar with other than the slang usage of Cuz to mean friend, which isn’t …remotely appropriation, or what the word even means in this context.) 

I’ve heard of American Indian communities where people habitually refer to each other as ‘cousin’, but it’s… not even the same context, let alone the same… anything.

I have a hard time telling the difference between someone approaching me in bad faith and someone being really confused but approaching me in good faith, until the interaction goes bad.  

I really hate when people accuse me of wanting everyone to agree with me, or something along those lines.  I put a lot of time and effort into saying “These are my opinions, I am setting them out there among lots of other people’s opinions, so that you can pick and choose which opinions seem the most right to you.”  I put a hell of a lot more effort into saying and doing things like that, than the people accusing me of “wanting to be followed” or “wanting to be worshipped” or “wanting everyone to unquestioningly agree with me" ever do.  So WTF is the deal with that?