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7:26pm September 11, 2014
Anonymous asked: Re: your 'really listen'- i can't do that. I've tried, and all the movements and sounds and silences just turn into the equivalent of white noise in my brain and I can't decode or retain it, or tell which parts were important or what was in reaction to what. I don't have to analyze everything but I do have to do it in words. Please don't take my inability to follow your 'dance' for arrogance, or ignorance, or uncaring. I care so much it hurts, but I need things in words to hold them in my head.

Shit, it seems like all the wrong people are reading what I write (that is, everyone I wasn’t aiming it at, which… probably makes sense, given the fact that the people I would like to aim it at probably don’t like my writing and have quit reading it).  I know there are people who can’t follow this stuff.  I would never in a million years blame someone for having, say, NLD, and not EVER being able to do this.  Instructions like that in my posts are aimed at people who can do them, and are never, ever, ever aimed at people who can’t, especially for reasons of disability.  The people who most need to listen to those instructions are people who have never bothered to listen because they have assumed there’s nothing to hear.  Not people who have spent their entire life listening and can’t hear because they don’t have ears (as an analogy only).  Fuck, I hate when this happens – I end up upsetting everyone who isn’t doing anything wrong, and not upsetting people enough who are either doing something wrong, or at least aren’t paying enough attention.

Notes:
  1. natalunasans said: one of my students told me a quote “language is such a leaky vessel to carry meaning in” (something like that?). it’s not you, it’s not the (innocent) reader. it’s the failings of language itself at its own purpose.
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