2:45pm September 17, 2014

➸ What Acceptance is Not

scattered-minutiae:

Parent A: I love and accept my autistic child just as she is.

Parent B: So you’re just giving up on her?

Acceptance is not giving up.

 Parent A: I love and accept my autistic child just as he is.

Parent B: How can you just do nothing? My son gets at least 30 hours of behavioral therapy a week plus all-day preschool and adaptive sports and OT and PT and …

 Acceptance is not doing nothing.

 Parent A: I love and accept my autistic child just as she is.

Parent B: I love and accept my child too! After 5 years of ABA, daily social skills training, and a star-chart-sticker-reward-gummy-bear-timeout-management system validated by an elite team of MIT scientists you can’t tell she’s any different from the other kids in her mainstream class.

 Acceptance is not what happens after you’ve fixed someone to your liking.

 Parent A: I love and accept my autistic child just as he is.

Parent: You mean you’re fine with raising a feral child who runs wild through the streets in his underwear, smeared in the remains of the chocolate bars he eats for breakfast, lunch and dinner?

 Acceptance is not throwing away all rules, manners, education, skills and coping strategies. 

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