as small as a world and as large as alone, how is that homophobic? i have gay friends and...

6:49pm September 22, 2014

Anonymous asked: how is that homophobic? i have gay friends and support them all the way, but i don't believe in gay marriage.

scienceofsarcasm:

ickletayto:

lesbianvenom:

your gay friends are all talking shit behind your back 100%

Yeah, you support them all the way.. We’ll most of the way.. We’ll some of the way.. Clearly not as far as marriage.. Cause marriage ain’t for gays.. Or something

You hear so many of these people say, “I have a lot of gay friends but don’t believe in same sex marriage”, but you never hear gay people say “I’ve lots of friends who think it should be illegal for me to marry the person I love”.

So, here’s a PSA for everyone who is against marriage equality, but thinks they have gay friends. You probably don’t. What you have are gay acquaintances who have learned to quietly put up with your bullshit because it’s the path of least resistance and they just don’t have the energy to “My Fair Lady” your ass into being a decent human being.

Just a PSA for any of my friends who are against marriage equality: You’re still my friends, even though I’m gay, even though I disagree with you, even though I think that if you act on your beliefs, you’re tearing apart families in horrible ways. You’re still my friends because I see you as more than your political beliefs. But not because I don’t see your political beliefs as harmful. I just don’t see people as perfection-machines where they have to be right about everything, because I’m not right about everything either. And that’s not how I judge who I want my friends to be.

Although weirdly enough I think all of my friends who used to be against marriage equality are for it now, and all of my friends who used to think being gay was a sin don’t think so anymore. Which is kind of cool, and some of them credit me for it, but I didn’t really try to convert them or anything. I wasn’t trying to change anyone’s mind. I just let them believe what they believed and lived my life according to what I believed.

But I really found it hard to be offended by their religious beliefs and I don’t know why I’m so hard to offend on that front but it just didn’t strike me as malicious on their part and I couldn’t find it in me to be pissed off at them about it, despite knowing the real consequences for same-sex couples (including possibly me in the future if I ever marry). I still can’t get pissed off about that particular difference in beliefs, and I don’t know why I can’t. I just can’t. Maybe I’m really weird for a gay person.

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