2:58pm September 24, 2014

A short lesson in tumblr etiquette (or in general in behaving like a decent human being).

You receive a message that somehow comes across your dash, saying that someone could die if they don’t get help, and signal boosting or sending money or sending letters or calling people or doing something will help.

You notice that someone associated with that message (say, the OP) is someone you don’t like very much, in fact it may be someone you can’t stand, someone you loathe with every inch of your being, someone you see as responsible for all sorts of Bad Shit, whatever.  You don’t like this person.  That’s the main thing – you don’t like this person at all.

Let’s presume just to make things simpler, that this is something you would absolutely reblog if you didn’t have this grudge against the OP or someone else heavily involved in the reblogging of it.

What do you do?

Do you:

1.  Suck it up and reblog it, knowing that helping someone stay alive is more important than your personal grudges.

2.  Reblog it, but make sure that your very first hashtag points out how much you hate reblogging anything written by this person (rather than pointing out how someone could die if they don’t get help, say).

3.  Don’t reblog it at all.  Just ignore it, because your grudge matters more than someone else’s life.

Honestly, being the target of the passive-aggressive hashtag, I’d rather either #1 or #3 than #2.  #2 is using the possible death of one of my closest friends in the world to take potshots at me and that’s fucking asinine.  You’re already on ignore, so don’t bother replying with more asininity.  If you don’t like me, don’t reblog me, it’s that simple.  If you truly think that the thing you’re reblogging is more important than whatever grudge you hold against me, then go ahead and reblog, but without the potshots.  But don’t try this in-between bullshit because it’s really asinine.  

I just can’t come up with a better word than asinine, you’re making yourself into an ass.  Or an asshole.  And remember I’m losing my father right now, and now possibly one of my closest friends (she’s basically a second mother to me, without her I wouldn’t be alive), and I’ve sent out repeated posts saying not to do shit that stresses me out (adrenal insufficiency + sufficient stress = adrenal crisis), so could people who don’t like me just fucking avoid me, or grow up and behave like adults, rather than zing little potshots at me in the hashtags?

WTF, seriously.  I mean this is not my biggest problem at the moment, but it was enough to make me put someone on ignore so I don’t ever have to see their passive-aggressive hashtags again.  It doesn’t take a lot to stress me out right now.  (And as usual – disagreeing with me is fine.  Being an asshole isn’t.  This was being an asshole.)

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